There come times in every relationship when the mundane routine gets the best of us and it takes a toll on our relationship. Even in soulmate relationships there are times we get bored, and everything about our partner just starts to irritate us. However, there are numerous little things you can do to keep the flame lit and get the best out of your relationship.
1.Be silly with your partner.
Being silly is important because it keeps things fun and reminds you not to take yourself or life too seriously. I can’t even tell you how silly my partner and I act with each other. We have cheesy nicknames for each other, we sing ridiculous songs that we make up, and we love to make silly faces. This may sound childish on the surface, but really, in tough times or during an argument, one of us can easily revert to silliness and we are instantly reminded that the argument we are having is just as silly as our songs and faces.
2.Be romantic.
Romance is not dead, contrary to the popular belief. You’d be surprised what the occasional romantic day trip, picnic, or dinner can do for a relationship. When you take time out of your busy schedule to appreciate your relationship, it can work wonders.
3.Be spontaneous.
There is nothing better you can do to get your away from your daily routine than doing something unusual to break the pattern. Take an unplanned day trip somewhere, surprise your partner with something (a meal, a small gift), go out on a Tuesday night. Why not?
4.Try different things together.
When you get a day off together, instead of doing what you usually do (whatever that may be), try something completely different. If you usually tend to stay home, then go somewhere. If you always go places, then stay home for some quiet relaxation. If you always stay in the city, try getting out to nature. Play something together you haven’t played before (whether it be a board game or an active sport). The point is, don’t keep doing the exact same things you always do, as the tendency is to get bored. And before you know it, you won’t be bored with the activities. You’ll be bored with your partner.
5.Try different things apart.
This one is crucial. It’s really important to have some separate activities. If you are doing everything with your partner and you get little time apart, again, there comes the tendency to get bored. You know that time when you just start dating – you are only seeing each other a couple of times a week, right? You miss each other. When you start living together, there is usually no more missing each other, because you are together most of the time. So, it’s important to have activities that are just for you, like hobbies, hanging out with girl friends or guy friends, sports or exercise, etc. That way you give each other a chance to miss each other and keep things fresh!
To find out how to attract your perfect partner, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Monday, May 17, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Never Settle for Less Than a Soulmate
When people hit a certain age, especially women, they are heavily pressured to “tie the knot” and “settle down” with a life partner. Unfortunately, more often than not, this results in the wrong choice of partner. Settling for anything less than a soulmate for life can be a grave mistake. Let’s examine why.
I was casually flipping through an English newspaper, and there it was. Page 8. “Find Mr. Right Before Age 30 or Settle for Mr. Second Best.” Well, isn’t that great? I’m being told to settle yet again.
The article talked about how too many women are swept off their feet by the idea of soulmates and that in real life they don’t really exist. Strong marriages are built upon trust and cooperation, we are told, not on that fairytale kind of love and romance we see in TV soap operas. Apparently we need to get our heads out of the clouds and by the time we are 30, that’s it, our clock has ticked away its time and we’d better find a man fast before we hit 40 and are still alone and miserable.
Right?
Wrong! Settling for the wrong mate could be the biggest mistake of your life. Why? Well, it’s really quite simple. You have to spend every day of your life with this person (with the occasional break maybe). You have to share everything with this person – the joys, the sorrows, the money you make, your kids! If this person is not your soulmate, your life might be OK, but it will never be great. You will never experience true happiness. And isn’t that what we are all after in this life? We don’t really want lots of money, a big house, and a successful career. We want the positive feelings that come with those things. And if you are with the wrong partner, you can be sure you won’t experience those positive feelings on a regular basis.
If your life partner is not your soulmate, it will affect you in more ways than you can imagine. The effects may range from subtle to catastrophic, but you can be sure they will be noticed sooner or later. If you are not with the right person, you may one day find yourself empty, because life isn’t very fulfilling when you are sharing it with someone, who you don’t have a deep connection with. And when that happens, no amount of “cooperation” or finances will help fill that gap. But when you are with a soulmate, all the other gaps in life are easier to fill.
Settling for second best in relationships is kind of like wearing a pair of shoes that doesn’t quite fit all your life. Maybe they look good, and the quality is not bad either, but if you are uncomfortable in them, eventually you will start hating them at best, or do some serious damage to your body in the worst-case scenario.
But it’s difficult to find a soulmate, isn’t it? Well, that depends on you. Basically, it’s like the old saying goes: whether you believe something is possible or not, you are absolutely right. It may take a little more than a belief to find the partner of your dreams, but everyone certainly has it within them to do it. The key is not to believe those who say it’s difficult and that there is only one soulmate for each of us out there. There are thousands and you just need to be open to the possibility of meeting one.
To learn more about how to find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
I was casually flipping through an English newspaper, and there it was. Page 8. “Find Mr. Right Before Age 30 or Settle for Mr. Second Best.” Well, isn’t that great? I’m being told to settle yet again.
The article talked about how too many women are swept off their feet by the idea of soulmates and that in real life they don’t really exist. Strong marriages are built upon trust and cooperation, we are told, not on that fairytale kind of love and romance we see in TV soap operas. Apparently we need to get our heads out of the clouds and by the time we are 30, that’s it, our clock has ticked away its time and we’d better find a man fast before we hit 40 and are still alone and miserable.
Right?
Wrong! Settling for the wrong mate could be the biggest mistake of your life. Why? Well, it’s really quite simple. You have to spend every day of your life with this person (with the occasional break maybe). You have to share everything with this person – the joys, the sorrows, the money you make, your kids! If this person is not your soulmate, your life might be OK, but it will never be great. You will never experience true happiness. And isn’t that what we are all after in this life? We don’t really want lots of money, a big house, and a successful career. We want the positive feelings that come with those things. And if you are with the wrong partner, you can be sure you won’t experience those positive feelings on a regular basis.
If your life partner is not your soulmate, it will affect you in more ways than you can imagine. The effects may range from subtle to catastrophic, but you can be sure they will be noticed sooner or later. If you are not with the right person, you may one day find yourself empty, because life isn’t very fulfilling when you are sharing it with someone, who you don’t have a deep connection with. And when that happens, no amount of “cooperation” or finances will help fill that gap. But when you are with a soulmate, all the other gaps in life are easier to fill.
Settling for second best in relationships is kind of like wearing a pair of shoes that doesn’t quite fit all your life. Maybe they look good, and the quality is not bad either, but if you are uncomfortable in them, eventually you will start hating them at best, or do some serious damage to your body in the worst-case scenario.
But it’s difficult to find a soulmate, isn’t it? Well, that depends on you. Basically, it’s like the old saying goes: whether you believe something is possible or not, you are absolutely right. It may take a little more than a belief to find the partner of your dreams, but everyone certainly has it within them to do it. The key is not to believe those who say it’s difficult and that there is only one soulmate for each of us out there. There are thousands and you just need to be open to the possibility of meeting one.
To learn more about how to find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Masculine-Feminine Energy Ratio in Soulmate Relationships
When searching for your soulmate, it is important to understand the relevance of the amount of masculine and feminine energy you possess. That’s right – each of us, male or female, carries both, and the amount of each should inversely match that of our partner in order to create a lasting soulmate relationship.
Feminine and masculine energy, estrogen and testosterone, yin and yang – whatever you want to call them – play a crucial part in creating a successful soulmate relationship. If you and your partner have an inverse energy match, chances are, your relationship will be strong, even if you have some other major discrepancies.
For starters, you should be clear on your own masculine-feminine ratio. This shouldn’t be very difficult to determine. If you are woman, how traditionally feminine are you? Is it 60%? 80%? Do you possess any traditionally masculine characteristics? If so, what percentage of your personality do you think they comprise?
I’d like to point out here that I am by no means trying to be sexist and put men and women into boxed character descriptions. Like I said, we all possess some characteristics of both gender energies. So, it’s important to determine your ratio.
For example, I consider myself 65% yin and about 35% yang. I am fairly feminine in that I openly express my volatile emotions, I like to dress up and wear make-up, and I really like to be shown affection to. However, I can also be quite aggressive, stubborn, and head-strung, which indicate a noticeable presence of testosterone.
So, if I am 65% feminine and 35% masculine, then my soulmate or perfect partner should be 65% masculine and 35% feminine, which, he is! Basically, the sum of the percentages of each of your energies and your partner’s energies should more or less equal 100. If it’s too far off, then it may be quite difficult for the relationship.
For example, a very feminine woman cannot be happy with a very feminine man. He cannot fill her masculinity gap, nor can she fill his. It’s no wonder that you often find extremely feminine women with strong archetypal traditional men. The same goes for effeminate men who end up with powerful women. Those relationships work!
So, it’s important to first determine your own yin-yang ratio. Then you can look for a partner with an inverse ratio, and he/she may very well be your soulmate. To find out more about how to manifest your dream relationship, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Feminine and masculine energy, estrogen and testosterone, yin and yang – whatever you want to call them – play a crucial part in creating a successful soulmate relationship. If you and your partner have an inverse energy match, chances are, your relationship will be strong, even if you have some other major discrepancies.
For starters, you should be clear on your own masculine-feminine ratio. This shouldn’t be very difficult to determine. If you are woman, how traditionally feminine are you? Is it 60%? 80%? Do you possess any traditionally masculine characteristics? If so, what percentage of your personality do you think they comprise?
I’d like to point out here that I am by no means trying to be sexist and put men and women into boxed character descriptions. Like I said, we all possess some characteristics of both gender energies. So, it’s important to determine your ratio.
For example, I consider myself 65% yin and about 35% yang. I am fairly feminine in that I openly express my volatile emotions, I like to dress up and wear make-up, and I really like to be shown affection to. However, I can also be quite aggressive, stubborn, and head-strung, which indicate a noticeable presence of testosterone.
So, if I am 65% feminine and 35% masculine, then my soulmate or perfect partner should be 65% masculine and 35% feminine, which, he is! Basically, the sum of the percentages of each of your energies and your partner’s energies should more or less equal 100. If it’s too far off, then it may be quite difficult for the relationship.
For example, a very feminine woman cannot be happy with a very feminine man. He cannot fill her masculinity gap, nor can she fill his. It’s no wonder that you often find extremely feminine women with strong archetypal traditional men. The same goes for effeminate men who end up with powerful women. Those relationships work!
So, it’s important to first determine your own yin-yang ratio. Then you can look for a partner with an inverse ratio, and he/she may very well be your soulmate. To find out more about how to manifest your dream relationship, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
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