Monday, March 29, 2010

Finding Your Soulmate Is Not About Luck

Many people believe that finding your soulmate and having a happy relationship is just a matter of luck, that some people randomly “hit the relationship jackpot”, so to speak. But in reality, finding your soulmate is a matter of having the right mindset.

Two and a half years ago I came out of yet another unsuccessful relationship, convinced that it was impossible to find true love. I dreaded the thought of having to do it all over again, go on dates, blab about myself to the same unsuitable guys who would probably not be there after a few months. I just couldn't be bothered to put in the energy, to be honest.
To my great fortune, I was also going through a general life crisis at the time, where everything seemed to be going wrong with no solution in sight. I say "to my great fortune" without the least bit of facetiousness, because that crisis was probably the best thing that could've happened to me. It put me on the path to become a life coach, which is exactly where I learned the techniques of deliberate attraction. I used these techniques for different areas of my life, including my love life. Two months later I met the man of my dreams - my soulmate Jonathan - and now I couldn't be happier.

Carla had been through several unsuccessful long-term relationships, including a marriage, and finally became fed up with this misfortune. Unknowingly, she actually used similar techniques that I had and focused intently on what she wanted in a soulmate or ideal partner. Several months down the road she met the man she had wanted for years - her soulmate Alex - and they are in a harmonious, loving, committed relationship.

Angele had been hurt so many times by different men that she actually made a 3-month rule, which stated that she would not date anyone for longer than 3 months. That's when all the fun of the relationship usually ends, she thought. Realizing that this isn't very fulfilling, she was determined to find the right man, and used specific techniques to deliberately attract that man. She didn't have to wait long for her soulmate Minas to appear in her life, and they now have been very happily married for 5 years.

Angie used to believe that men were pretentious and only out to manipulate women into doing what they wanted. She created an impenetrable wall to protect herself, and not even a compliment from the opposite sex could get through. Unhappy with her love life, Angie decided that something needed to change – her mindset. Shortly after this change, her soulmate CJ appeared in her life, and proved to her that men can be 100% genuine, committed, and caring. CJ is everything Angie ever wanted in a life partner.

Were any of these matches coincidences? Hardly! They happened as a result of specific techniques of subconscious mind programming and deliberate attraction. I am not saying that this is the only way you could ever meet a soulmate. In fact, it's not necessary to use techniques of deliberate attraction if you are already in the right mindset about meeting your soulmate. But mindset is KEY. Those who didn't use any specific techniques to attract their ideal match are not lucky. They just had the correct mindset which enabled their subconscious mind to attract their soulmate. It never just happens by chance! You will never find a person who is unhappy with his/her love life who will all of a sudden meet their ideal partner. The universe doesn't work like that. You have to get into the mindset first, and then a matching reality will materialize around you. And the first step is to develop the right belief system about relationships, the opposite sex, and soulmates. To find out more about techniques of deliberate attraction, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Defining Soulmates

It seems to me that the number 1 reason most people are not in a soulmate relationship is not even so much that they don't believe in soulmates, but that they don't really understand what a soulmate is. The word "soulmate" has become almost stigmatized in our society due to a number of misconceptions surrounding it. And that's a real shame, because a soulmate relationship is one the most amazing things one can experience in life, and a concept that definitely needs some debunking and "unstigmatizing".

So, what do we really mean when we say this almost mystical word "soulmate"? Well, first let's examine what a soulmate ISN'T.
A soulmate is not someone who you have EVERYTHING in common with. Certainly, you must agree on certain fundamental issues, such as values and outlook on life, but it is a myth that your personality and interests have to match completely. In fact, sometimes opposite personalities make the best relationships, because you balance each other out, as is the case with me and my soulmate.
A soulmate is not someone who you never have arguments or disagreements with. Soulmate couples on average have just as many arguments as any other average human relationship; the difference is in HOW they deal with them and not let them escalate into major conflicts. This is much easier to do in a soulmate relationship because soulmates to see clearer through each others' ego facade and realize that whatever they are arguing about is just petty nonsense. If it's not petty, then they find a way to resolve their differences in a way that suits both parties satisfactorily.
Soulmates are not "joined at the hip". While soulmates probably do spend more time together than average couples, they still value their independence and realize that they are their own person. If not, then it is not a healthy relationship, which is based on dependence and possessiveness. In a healthy soulmate relationship both parties see each other as a valuable attribute to each other's lives, rather than a vital necessity.

At last, what IS a soulmate then?

A soulmate is someone who you FEEL like you could wake up to every single day and you wouldn't want it any other way. It is someone who you FEEL values and connects with your true self, not the image you put on for others. A soulmate can easily see through that image, and FEEL your true self, even in an argument (or just after it). A soulmate is someone who you FEEL fully comfortable with and someone who you want to share everything with (your past and future, grief and joy, income and emotions, plans and ideas, etc.). A soulmate FEELS what you feel, and one soulmate can't be happy if the other one isn't.
I keep emphasizing the word FEEL, because that word is basically what the whole definition of the word "soulmate" boils down to. A soulmate is someone who you feel and who feels you on almost the same level that you feel yourself. You are that connected on the fundamental level of subatomic particles which you consist of.
A SOULMATE IS SOMEONE YOU FEEL AND SOMEONE WHO FEELS YOU.

For more information about soulmates, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com