You can blame your parents, friends, the opposite sex, your education and the way you've been brought up for not being able to meet your soulmate or ideal match. But fundamentally it all boils down to just one factor: YOU. The 5 reasons listed below may be eye-openers about what's holding you back from finding your soulmate and what you can do to make a breakthrough.
#1. You allow your past relationships to influence future ones.
If you've dated your fair share of unsuitable matches, chances are you have developed a comfort zone for the wrong person. This makes it difficult to meet your soulmate and get into the relationship of your dreams, since your subconscious mind produces a distorted picture of what a love partner should be like. So, stuck in this vicious cycle, you keep going for people who are not right for you at all. You may even notice a pattern where all your past partners share similar fundamental flaws that were incompatible with you. To get out of this vicious cycle, the first step is awareness. Take note of the unmatching traits that all your past partners had in common. Focus on the OPPOSITE of those traits to attract a person that's right for you.
#2. You complain about the opposite sex.
This is a nasty habit that we get into very early on in life. Girls complain to their girlfriends about guys and guys vice versa. While this gets things off your chest and perhaps helps you fit in with the crowd, beware of the consequences! The more you complain about the opposite sex, the more you attract the things you complain about, since they get programmed deeper and deeper in your subconscious mind every time you state a complaint. So, if you keep telling your girlfriends that men are afraid of commitment, don't be surprised if your next boyfriend takes 6 months to call you his woman. And if you complain to
your guy friends that women are always after money and status, you can be sure to end up with a gold-digger. If your friends are keen on complaining about the opposite sex, try not to participate in those discussions. Instead talk to people who have positive things to say, or focus on the positive qualities of men or women. Think of all the men and women you've ever met. If you can think of at least one who doesn't fit the things you complain about, then you can be sure there are thousands of others and your soulmate is bound to be among them.
#3. You accept settling for less.
It's a real shame how millions of people in the world simply accept that it's very difficult to meet their soulmate or the right person and they marry or stay with the wrong one just for the sake of being with someone. We develop this belief in childhood, and it is passed down to us from generation to generation, from people who were unable to meet their ideal match. So, just because our mother/father, grandparents, other family members didn't bother to find the right person for themselves, we automatically assume that we are destined to follow the same path. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY FALSE! It is not difficult to find the right person. It does not just happen to the lucky few. And it is NOT OK to settle for less. It may be OK now, but many years down the road you will deeply regret it when you look at your partner and feel nothing but resentment or empty space. Just remember that every time you as much as think that it's difficult to meet your soulmate, you put yourself farther away from the circumstances in which you could actually meet him/her. Your subconscious mind will literally make you oblivious to all the well-suited partners for you that are out there. So, be careful what you think, as it WILL come true.
#4. You don't believe in soulmates!
This one somewhat stems from the previous belief. So, not only do people think that it's difficult to find their soulmate, but many believe that it's impossible! They don't even believe that there exists a person who is right for them at all. They say this out loud to the world, yet deep down they wish and hope that Mr./Mrs. Right will walk in and change their mind. Well, it just doesn't work like that! You have to believe in Mr./Mrs. Right first, and only then can you expect him/her to walk through the door. Throw away the popular notion that 'seeing is believing'. From the fundamentals of the subconscious mind, the opposite is actually true and 'believing is seeing'! If you don't believe it, it will never exist in your life. Period.
#5. You secretly don't want to meet your soulmate.
Let's face it. Any relationship requires effort, and a soulmate one is no different. Don't get me wrong, it's extremely rewarding to put in that effort and it's a pleasure for both parties, but it's still effort, and for some of us effort equals pain. Remember that whatever you wish you had in your life is not there because you get some secret pleasure from not having it. This may seem absurd, and even offensive to some people, but when you really think about it, this starts to make sense. If you had your soulmate and the relationship of your dreams, you could no longer get satisfaction from complaining to your friends about men/women. You wouldn't get the sympathy from family every time you have a bad date. You would no longer be able to relate to your single friends, and even worse, they might begin to resent you for having found someone wonderful. You may not consciously think or even realize any of these things, but they may be preventing you from meeting your soulmate. To get past this, you need to get clear on the benefits of having a soulmate relationship and focus on them. Then you will be on the right path toward meeting your soulmate.
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